Last week our
discussion was on relationships. We know
relationships
are important. They are important to God and should be to us as well. God
doesn’t want the church, families, or friendships that He has ordained be torn
apart. The first few things that we brought out on regarding saving and
maintaining relationships are:
1.
Remind yourselves you are not in competition.
2.
Consider the fact that you may be wrong.
3.
Be sorry, really sorry for the wrong you have done.
4.
Take accountability for any wrong you have done.
Let’s continue.
5. Make
restoration if required.
“And
Zacchaeus stood, and said unto the Lord; Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I
give to the poor; and if I have taken any thing from any man by false
accusation, I restore him fourfold” (Luke 19:8). It may cost you something
to be right with God and each other, but it is well worth the price.
6. Take the
initiative to restore the relationship.
Romans 12:10 tells us to “Be kindly affectioned one to another with
brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.” “Preferring” is from the Greek word: “proegeomai” which means to
lead the way for others, i.e. show deference, to go before another as an
example of humble submission. In counseling I sometimes hear people say, “I’m
not the bad guy here.” And many times the defensive person is actually much
more in the right than the other person. But think of this: if you are right
and the other person was wicked enough to do you wrong, what makes you think
they will arise more quickly from their “wicked state” and initiate
reconciliation? Reconciliation is much more likely to take place if the more
spiritual one takes the initiative. You must “prefer,” in other words, lead the
way for others.
7. Forgive the
one who offended you of all they have done.
David said in Psalm 25:18b, “…forgive all my sins.” Why would we
expect God to forgive us of “all” our sins, and not be just as willing to
forgive others who have sinned against us of “all” their sins? Partial
forgiveness will never do, we must forgive all to have relief and to give
relief. It may be hard, but it is the right thing to do. We are so tempted to
put the person on probation. You may argue, well, I don’t want to be hurt
again, but I say to you, take the risk. Love is a risk! The Lord took the
greatest risk for you and me when He went to the cross and died the death that
we all deserved. Listen to the magnanimous heart of Jesus and may we emulate
this attitude, “Wherefore I say unto
thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom
little is forgiven, the same loveth little. And he said unto her, Thy sins are
forgiven” (Luke 7:47, 48).
8. Regain
relationship and don’t live in shame or blame.
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